Alpha Leadership - Myths & Misconceptions

Misconception #1

Alphas are Obeyed Because They Are Feared By The Group

Before truly understanding the nature of an alpha, one must first explore the concept of power, specifically as it pertains to alpha leadership. Alpha “power” only exists insofar as the group welcomes it; as the alpha wins group trust by demonstrating his ability to guide and protect.  Gaining trust is fundamental to alpha existence. People cannot trust someone whom they fear.

Whether viewed on a broad social level, or on a local street corner, one will observe time and again, trust, as an element infusing all of alpha behavior.  An alpha does not increase his alpha status by suddenly and unexpectedly attacking someone.  Creating fear in this way, would actually work to undermine his status in the eyes of others. It would fly in the face of the trust he has created and fostered; trust of him by the group he leads and protects.

Misconception # 2

An Alpha Dominates by Exhibiting Superior Physical Strength and Fighting Ability Within The Group

Alpha leadership is in no way associated with physical dominance or aggression.  In fact, quite the opposite is true. Alpha’s calm demeanor in the face of adversity is a significant factor in negotiation -  a major aspect of being alpha. Negotiation skill, both recognizing the need for it, and possessing the skill to execute it, are essential alpha attributes.  Alpha’s calmness during negotiation shows her supreme confidence in resolving any conflict.

The suggestion that becoming the best fighter will make one an alpha is a misconception regarding alpha behavior, particularly among ill-informed alpha ‘wanna-bes.’  An illustration of this outlook would be "I am the alpha, therefore I am entitled and get only the best, while everyone else suffers the leftovers.”  It is a quick and sure way to expose a beta, posing as an alpha.

Misconception # 3

As Their Leader, The Alpha’s Needs Are Paramount To Those of The Group

The fact is, the alpha looks out for the group.  It is why the group puts their trust in him, because he makes sure that they get what they need to survive.  An insecure beta, works against those standards, as demonstrated in the illustration above.  One of the biggest mistakes that ‘wanna be’ alphas make is they do not permit other group members to achieve their needs.  The truth is that the majority of alpha communication is intentionally designed to allow individuals to function so that everyone is able to obtain what they need-- not want, but need, in order for them to operate smoothly as a group.

Misconception # 4

Control and Dominance are the Cornerstones of Alpha Leadership

It is telling that the origin of the word leadership is not associated with concepts such as ‘command,’  or ‘dominance.’   In fact, synonyms for leadership are ‘guidance,’ ‘management,’ and ‘direction.’  Actually, it is human nature for people to respond positively to leadership.  There is, then, a substantial difference between leadership and domination. Domination infers supremacy, superiority, and rule.

In reality, the alpha leader’s power has nothing to do with any perceived control or dominance over the group. The alpha’s calm, steady composure and quiet, attentive manner are her indispensable strengths. They indicate the alpha’s superior ability to quickly and accurately assess the essentials of a volatile situation.  She’s thus seen as capable of determining an effective course of action insuring group integrity and assuring the best possible outcome.  Aiming to engender and sustain the group’s vital trust, it is in this calm, quiet way, that the alpha leader gradually earns, and finally achieves, her post as chief decision maker.

Conclusion

As Part I of this series, the focus of Alpha Leadership, has been exposing misconceptions about what it means to be alpha.  The Alpha Leadership principles and concepts explored here, may be applied in a wide variety of contexts, where striving to improve performance or results is the goal.  For more on Alpha Leadership, including tips on how you can become an effective alpha leader, read   "Alpha Attraction- Your Recruiting Bait and Hook" and“Alpha Attraction - Not Just Caveman Sex...." Look for Part II of Alpha Leadership, coming soon...

susan rachelle burton cook, esq.
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